romance issues

JimmyB wrote:

Think I got put into the friendzone again
First this woman was acting like she was into me-messaging me first, typing lots of lols and extra letters, seeing if I went places she goes to,etc.
Well last night I asked her honest opinion of me and she said " I think you're a genuinely awesome person you see just saw too hard on yourself. Lighten up and let loose!!!! "
She then said my haircut looks a lot better now-buzz cut

Then I have my honest opinion of her last night " I think you are the most attractive woman I've ever met. You're beautiful inside and outside and I like it. You have an absolutely wonderful soul, and you talking with me has made myself really happy."

And all she said was "awe Thanks"

Pittsburgh area really has no one who fits my type now.

Jimmy, you've never met her in person. You have no idea if she is the most attractive woman you've ever met, you don't know her inside and outside. You don't know her soul.

It's great to see you trying and out there, but you need to realize that you have to meet people halfway.

If I've met a cool guy once and we had a great time, I'm not going to say "You are the most awesome dude I've ever hung out with. You are a stand up guy, you are honest and amazing. I can't believe we're best friends. This makes me so happy". He'd be like what the fuck are you talking about? You don't know me.

And that would just be in regards to a platonic friendship.

You add the weight and pressure of romance and what I just said would be an automatic, nope, done!

I've met her in person.

Okay but maybe you should dial it down a bit and ask her out on a date before pouring your heart out.

JimmyB wrote:

Think I got put into the friendzone again
First this woman was acting like she was into me-messaging me first, typing lots of lols and extra letters, seeing if I went places she goes to,etc.
Well last night I asked her honest opinion of me and she said " I think you're a genuinely awesome person you see just saw too hard on yourself. Lighten up and let loose!!!! "
She then said my haircut looks a lot better now-buzz cut

Then I have my honest opinion of her last night " I think you are the most attractive woman I've ever met. You're beautiful inside and outside and I like it. You have an absolutely wonderful soul, and you talking with me has made myself really happy."

And all she said was "awe Thanks"

Pittsburgh area really has no one who fits my type now.

I mean, of course that was her reaction. That response is super over-the-top. That's like what you'd say when you want to propose to someone, not when you want to maybe grab dinner sometime.

So an interesting moment just occurred!

I'll try to be as brief as possible. Last year I met a girl at a festival and I fell like crazy for her, she had feelings for me too. She lived in Stockholm (she was like half the reason I ended up moving there but I've since returned), five hours away from me, but we managed to see each other once more after the festival. Then things were a bit haywire in her life so she said she couldn't keep in touch anymore.

A few hours ago she asked if she could call me so I said yes and we talked and she apologized. We agreed to hang out at some point. After saying good bye I had to close the balcony door so my hands were too occupied to terminate the call, and apparently she forgot to do it so before I could end it I heard her tell her friends "I'm in love".

Fucking weird, man, really confusing.

She was obviously lying, Johan. Just fucking w your dumb head

oh how i love that this thread is still a thing. i'm not sure that i should, but oh well.

hope you're all doing well

A girl I was getting quite shit-faced with told me I was "like a big bro" to her. I told her if that were true I was in need of a seriously good therapist who specializes in incest.

Haven't heard back from her yet.

dude, YES, best fucking reply you could have given!

So apparently even a woman who is almost an exact clone of me doesn't have interest in me. We both like model trains, the same music, history, even after talking for hours she is now ignoring me- she even asked me not to tag her in anything on Facebook.

I really am meant to be alone and never date. Sigh, but I want to eventually have a marriage and a family. I guess God thinks I'm too much a failure at everything I attempt to bless me with a relationship. I'm 23 and have never dated in my life. Women don't get attracted to me.

Yeah, I just got this. "Are you okay? I'm sorry I hurt you, I really am. I didn't want you to be so upset. I could tell you liked me, I didn't know it was that much. If I led you on, I'm so very sorry. I would never knowingly do that. ".

Same story different woman.

god doesn't exist, Jimbo

Wow, so I actually have a crush on someone that isn't a married dude in a band, and it seems like he might actually like me. This is the strangest thing that's happened to me in a long time.

I was just randomly browsing the forum and happened to click on your Flickr link Rose1991, cool pics!

Oh thanks! I haven't updated it much lately.

Rose1991 wrote:

Wow, so I actually have a crush on someone that isn't a married dude in a band, and it seems like he might actually like me. This is the strangest thing that's happened to me in a long time.

Jump on that!

Well done. Meanwhile o think women physically repulsed by me.

JimmyB wrote:

Well done. Meanwhile o think women physically repulsed by me.

you charm me physically but I feel spiritually harassed by you

OK I'm pretty sure he likes me.

Yesterday while we were setting up for a take, he came walking by me and made a detour in my direction to start some useless conversation with me about if I'd made up a backstory for my character, and then he poked fun at crafty for serving hot food an hour before lunch. That's good, right? And then when he got pulled away for a task, he hung back for a second to finish what he was saying before he ran off.

And the day before that, about 70 of us background actors were walking up the dirt road and he was walking down it, and I was dead tired and covered in filth, and when we passed each other he yelled, "Hey, miserable face!" and smiled at me.

Like at first I thought we were just set buddies cuz he kept making a point to say hi to me and he was just being friendly, but now I'm like... is there something else there?

I can't imagine why he'd be attracted to me, but he's really cute and our personalities seem to mesh pretty well, so I'm just going to not question it and see what happens. It's just weird because I can't remember a single time in my life where some guy was into me and he wasn't some desperate weirdo. Maybe for once I'm actually... *gasp* ...somebody's type???

It's odd. But I'm gonna give him my number next week when the show ends. Wish me luck.

Wish I was someone's type. Not even the weirdos like me. I've had more guys look at my online dating profiles-no offense meant,but I'm straight.

JimmyB wrote:

Wish I was someone's type. Not even the weirdos like me. I've had more guys look at my online dating profiles-no offense meant,but I'm straight.

Sounds like a good thing, Rose, I'm happy for you.

Personally I've found myself completely tattered and torn by the fact that I took someone for granted for the longest time and recently learned she moved on and has met someone. She deserves all the happiness in the world, and I in no way see myself as a victim or like someone's done me wrong, but it still hurts a fuckton. Hindsight is 20/20, right?

Back for second year of University now. Tough as hell. I dated a Christian girl all through first year and she's amazing but broke up with me because I'm not the same religion and she needs to think long term. Tough part is that we started dating quite early and her flat and mine are basically now 1 giant friendship group so I have to see her all the time. Sucks so much.

Let's form a sad people support group.