romance issues

DeathoftheCool wrote:

jimmy whatever you do don't end up like the guy from the video steph posted. he shot up my school because he couldn't get laid. do your best not to feel sorry for yourself

I'm so sorry buddy. One of my good friends lost one of her closest friends yesterday in the shooting as well.

There are millions of people who can't get laid. Nobody would ever shoot up a school because they can't get laid, the root of it is really mental health issues and this guy had serious, serious mental health issues. Look no further than his video and it's pretty clear that something was off.

If we can get people the care that they need, and they are willing to get care and help, these tragedies can be avoided... The problem is, it's so hard to make everything come together so some people don't flal through the cracks...

also, fuck this shooter. He claims to be superior to everyone else, but when you read and listen to what he's saying, he simply doesn't know how to make sense of the world and respond to it rationally.

rkirkpatrick25 wrote:

We're all fresh out of ideas. This isn't supposed to be easy.

There's only one man who can help




Kidding aside, there are people who swear by the book the game by neil strauss . I've never read it, but it might help to give you some ideas on how to approach a social life. I'm not trying to say you'll become Rico Suave overnight, but it wouldn't hurt to learn a thing or three about meeting women and how to interact in these settings.

Secondly, whether you like it or not, looks are a major factor for 99% of people. Why be with someone you're not physically attracted to? I know you've posted about losing weight which is awesome and a step in the right direction, but now it's time to start putting on some muscle. Pretty much any workout routine is good, but I really do swear by p90x if you actually commit yourself to the program. That means putting in 100% towards the workouts and the diet. I will gladly burn my DVD's and send you the diet guide if you want it. Just PM your address.

rkirkpatrick25 wrote:

also, fuck this shooter. He claims to be superior to everyone else, but when you read and listen to what he's saying, he simply doesn't know how to make sense of the world and respond to it rationally.

And that is what we call a crazy individual.

rumham wrote:

rkirkpatrick25 wrote:

also, fuck this shooter. He claims to be superior to everyone else, but when you read and listen to what he's saying, he simply doesn't know how to make sense of the world and respond to it rationally.

And that is what we call a crazy individual.

Somebody on CNN called it Murder by Narcissism. Sounds pretty accurate to me.

This individual couldn't look in the mirror and see how his actions made it impossible for the people around him to love him. Rather than looking internally, he made everything somebody else's fault and thought he could justify slaughtering them.

Narcissism is pretty scary stuff...

rumham wrote:

Kidding aside, there are people who swear by the book the game by neil strauss . I've never read it, but it might help to give you some ideas on how to approach a social life.  I'm not trying to say you'll become Rico Suave overnight, but it wouldn't hurt to learn a thing or three about meeting women and how to interact in these settings.

Pretty sure "The Game" is where all that pickup artist stuff comes from... I might be wrong though...

I have a general idea of how to interact with them (heck, most of my friends are women). There just isn't the type I like-Single ones around here are all obessed with what I posted before,etc. I guess my interests just do not click with them. Do I wish I had someone who loves me? yes. Have I accepted my singleness? yes.

JimmyB wrote:

I have a general idea of how to interact with them (heck, most of my friends are women).  There just isn't the type I like-Single ones around here are all obessed with what I posted before,etc. I guess my interests just do not click with them. Do I wish I had someone who loves me? yes.  Have I accepted my singleness? yes.

You complain about girls saying you aren't their type and then you use the same exact reason why you don't like some of the girls in your town.........

Also....I don't think you understand that physical and sexual desire is a huge part of a relationship. Most people are interested in sex. It is one of the main pieces of the puzzle in the relationship.

The type I am refering to, is having a beautiful personality.

JimmyB wrote:

The type I am refering to, is having a beautiful personality.

I think this might be where you end up having trouble.

You really believe that none of the women around you have a beautiful personality?

Nobody is perfect Jimmy. That's the beautiful part of love and being interested in someone. You love them DESPITE the fact that they have flaws because you care about them and you want the best for them.

You aren't perfect either, should no woman want you because of it?

That being said, some places are just awful. I grew up in a country town that was just packed with awful, awful, awful people. Anyone smart, interesting or creative in any way got out as quick as they could and just left jerks. Guys, girls, even the sheep were jerks. So if you're in a genuinely terrible place, don't sell yourself short just because you're lonely. That tends to be my undoing...

Update- Ditched girlfriend due to politics issues. Turns out she was kinda crazy, who would have thunk it.

Wait...didn't you just say you confessed your head over heels, I wanna slurp the same piece of spaghetti as you L-O-V-E to this lady?

steph wrote:

Wait...didn't you just say you confessed your head over heels, I wanna slurp the same piece of spaghetti as you L-O-V-E to this lady?

Yeah... Life moves fast. Turns out she was hardcore right-wing insane politically. As in "we should re-colonize Africa to save all those black people from themselves" crazy.

Shit. How did she manage to keep that under wraps??

steph wrote:

Shit. How did she manage to keep that under wraps??

I suppose because I never asked, never really got into the politics thing until I helped her with a paper on "Heart of Darkness" and "Apocalypse Now". Turns out I made a very poor decision. Still cut up about it, but I'd honestly think less of myself if I was sleeping with someone that awful

Sorry to hear that, maybe next time you could bring up politics on the first date just to be safe?

mwh wrote:

steph wrote:

Shit. How did she manage to keep that under wraps??

I suppose because I never asked, never really got into the politics thing until I helped her with a paper on "Heart of Darkness" and "Apocalypse Now". Turns out I made a very poor decision. Still cut up about it, but I'd honestly think less of myself if I was sleeping with someone that awful

Joe Conrad's always thwarting young romance. Bastard.

Yeah them 19th century authors always be ruining my game. I'm sure there's a joke about Dickens in here somewhere...

Not an issue, but dating someone new feels great. Had to share.

I'm feeling hurt beyond belief today. I cannot believe my flirting is not even acknowledged, let alone accepted. Anyone want to give me some positives about being single?

JimmyB wrote:

I'm feeling hurt beyond belief today.  I cannot believe my flirting is not even acknowledged, let alone accepted.  Anyone want to give me some positives about being single?

one positive about you being single is there isn't some poor girl having to listen to your incessant complaining

Harbortown wrote:

JimmyB wrote:

I'm feeling hurt beyond belief today.  I cannot believe my flirting is not even acknowledged, let alone accepted.  Anyone want to give me some positives about being single?

one positive about you being single is there isn't some poor girl having to listen to your incessant complaining

Haha. Awesome.   

JimmyB wrote:

I'm feeling hurt beyond belief today.  I cannot believe my flirting is not even acknowledged, let alone accepted.  Anyone want to give me some positives about being single?

I think we have all been right where you are at at one point or another, and I am sorry that you are there right now. The sidebar says you are 22, which was absolutely the worst of it for me. It got better right as I was pretty sure that I couldn't take any more weird romantic experiences (like how sometimes, you can't even be sure what happened or if you communicated everything properly and you just start to wonder if something is wrong with you). But nothing is wrong with you. I promise.

Anyway, I feel for you. It got better for me and I hope it will get better for you.

This one goes out to Jimmy. Taylor's been there. "I don't know about you, but I'm feeling 22." You're goddamn right.