romance issues

Jack wrote:

Wait, she asked you out but you don't know who she is? Did she write it out in flaming letters against the sky?

i'm wondering the same thing  

No, It was on that ask.fm site. The only reason I am seriously considering this real is because she knew things about me only someone who went to highschool would know about me. So yeah,WHENEVER we figure out a day to go get some coffee, It will turn out to either be, a first date, just hanging out with a female friend, start of a relationship, getting "catfished", or led on to a fake date for a laugh. No matter which way it turns out, Songwriting material regardless!!!

JimmyB wrote:

 No matter which way it turns out, Songwriting material regardless!!!

ha that's the spirit  

Can't say I really know what that is, but regardless I'd say go for it. Be the best version of yourself, treat her right and see what happens.

Well, I found out who it was....A girl I have never had any feelings for but has tried to date me before.....I can't win.       (Note:Not an attempt at attention or anything like that, just finishing what I posted before) How's everyone else doing?

date her anyway?

Labhras wrote:

date her anyway?

I feel nothing towards her.

I think I self sabotage relationships. I hate getting the feeling of something great; only to have it be taken away in the matter of a day.

What are your expectations going into a new relationship? Do you approach it looking for 'the one', or more casually? Coming on too strong can give off signs of desperation and turn the ladies off.

Okay here's my story...

Perhaps I should explain huh? Well Turns out this girl is in fact the one who has been randomly asking me questions anonymously, and wanted to get to know me. Well she messaged me yesterday saying it was her all along, but now she thinks I am an embarrassment and a "complainer". Oh yeah, I tried to talk with her yesterday, and when I asked her "Do you want me to stop talking to you?" She responded "IDC" What does that even mean in this case?

JimmyB wrote:

Okay here's my story...

Perhaps I should explain huh? Well Turns out this girl is in fact the one who has been randomly asking me questions anonymously, and wanted to get to know me. Well she messaged me yesterday saying it was her all along, but now she thinks I am an embarrassment and a "complainer". Oh yeah, I tried to talk with her yesterday, and when I asked her "Do you want me to stop talking to you?" She responded "IDC" What does that even mean in this case?

      Walk, no run, from people who play head games. I might be wrong and don't know all the facts , but seems like a head gamer to me.

That girl sounds like a mental case. I think you dodged a bullet.

Shame then, she is really pretty.

pretty don't fix crazy

DeathoftheCool wrote:

pretty don't fix crazy

 

I guess that's true.  I should be used to it by now, I think I may just stop trying for a long time. Being disappointed all the time does a number on one's emotional and physical heart.

Doing the OKC thing to meet new people, since I have a difficult time with that. Going pretty half and half so far. Since the site is free, and what brings people to the site to begin with are all for different reasons, the results are a mixed bag. I've had a couple good dates and equally shitty ones.

I'm so fricken lonely. I never thought I would get like this. I've been so pissed off too recently. I hope this is normal.....haha.

Sounds perfectly normal to me. Hang in there Chris, you'll find the right one.

Yeah, but it sucks. We weren't even dating for a long time. It just felt like months to me instead of weeks. I have never felt that close to a girl that quickly. Sucks she is gone.

What are your expectations going into a new relationship? Do you approach it casually or go in looking for 'the one'? Sometimes intensity is misinterpreted and can scare the ladies away.

Not really, "The One" as much as someone special. The thing that sucks this time is that I played it fairly cool but she was the one always texting, calling me, wanting to hang out. I really thought she was something. I just formed a physical/emotional connection her in weeks. It just felt so different. I dunno, everything felt unreal. I remember us both being happy on a cloudy day holding each holding eachother on the shore of the lake. She even told me all the time our thing felt like a "fairy tale". Then she changed her mind in the course of a night and it was over. I just dont know if I can feel anything similar to that again. It really did feel like I was in heaven. Im not even being crazy...haha...it really did.

Hmmm, was there someone else in the picture? Seems like there might have been other factors for her to do an abrupt about-face like that.

No one else was in the picture as far as I could see. Who knows!? I'll probably never find out so I shouldn't be dwelling on it.

I guess this coming weekend calls for the typical; go to the bars, drink, meet some girl, and make out. Repeat until I find another girl I think I can start something with.